What If the Church Has Gotten It Wrong—And So Has the World? (Biblical Women Pt. 1)

Let’s get uncomfortable for a second.

If you grew up in the church, you were probably taught that biblical womanhood meant submission, support, and silence. That leadership was for men. That teaching, preaching, or speaking boldly was somewhere between out of place and outright disobedience.

If you walked away from the church—or tried to find your voice inside it—you may have found more resonance in feminism’s call to smash the patriarchy than in yet another sermon on “The Proverbs 31 Wife.”

And honestly? I get it. Because deep down, women know they weren’t created to be second-class citizens.

But if feminism responded to the Church’s distortion of womanhood by rewriting the script entirely, I’d argue that both sides missed the mark.

One says: “Women must follow.”
The other: “Women must lead.”

But what if the truth isn’t about power at all?

The Pendulum Problem

The modern conversation around womanhood often swings like a pendulum between two extremes:

Patriarchy: Women are made to serve. Men lead by design. Authority flows one way.
Feminism: Women have been held back by men and systems. It’s time to flip the order—or burn it down.

But I believe the truth lies somewhere else entirely. The Bible doesn’t present a hierarchy of worth—it presents a blueprint of a mutual mission.
Not power over—but power with.

Messiah didn’t call women to disappear under the weight of tradition—or to abandon His design in pursuit of self-empowerment.
He called them to walk side by side in purpose and power—as it was in the beginning.

You Might Be Thinking…

“Doesn’t the Bible say women can’t teach or have authority over men?”
“What about Ephesians 5 and wives submitting to husbands?”
“Didn’t Jesus choose only male apostles for a reason?”

These are just some of the very real questions—and what we’re going to tackle head-on in this blog series. Not with empty slogans or surface-level answers, but with biblical context, cultural clarity, and a deep hunger for truth over tradition.

We’re not here to swing the pendulum back.
We’re here to find the truth I believe has been purposefully hidden from us.

What This Series Will Cover

Over the next 10 (ish, let’s be honest, I like to share, so it’ll probably be more) blog posts, we’ll unpack:

The real meaning of help meet
What Paul was (and wasn’t) saying about women being silent
The “headship” verses
Women leaders in Scripture (and why they weren’t exceptions)
How the Church and culture both lost the plot—and how we can get it back
And much more

This series isn’t about rebellion or appeasement.
It’s about restoring what was lost, and reclaiming the truth that sets both men and women free to walk in their created purpose.

We’re breaking the chains, not the design.

Ready to challenge what you thought you knew?

Good. Me too.